how i cope with chronic suicidality as a survivor

 

how i cope with chronic suicidality as a survivor

how i cope with chronic suicidality as a survivor with 20+ years of experieence

content note: discussion of suicidality.

this month is suicide prevention month which brings up a lot of complicated, messy, & painful feelings for me. folks with lived experience have so many incredible & valuable & much-needed things to add to the broader conversation around “suicide prevention." & this post won't be addressing that - at least today. it feels too overwhelming.

instead, i’ll share some of the things that have helped me stay alive as a survivor who has dealt with chronic suicidality for 20+ years.

if you are looking to read about what living with chronic suicidal ideation is like, i love this essay by anna borges, “i am not always very attached to being alive.”

peer support

peer support

building community with peers who also have lived experience helps me feel understood & less isolated; i learn from & alongside my comrades who may not always have similar experiences but do know what it's like to feel this way ✨ i love @peersupportspace's free + virtual groups!

creativity & play

creativity & play

i view creating & making art as composting: i use the shit i’ve experienced & transform it into zines and other containers for healing that are inspiring, colorful, empowering, cute, & hopeful.

creative work & play is something i've found supportive in my healing process; giving myself permission to be messy, imperfect, & make “bad” art (& that my art can be just for me!)

it's been cool to share my artwork & witness how it's supported fellow survivors; i created the things i needed & wanted to see in the world when surviving moment by moment felt impossible. i'm so grateful it resonates with my community.

you can find my art through @femmefilthpress 💫

my cats

my cats

my 3 sweet kitties are everything to me; when i’m not okay, i ask myself how i can make their day a little better! sometimes, i build them a playhouse from things i find around the house. or i create a game for us to play. or we go hang out on the catio together & enjoy the fresh air & sunshine together.

feeling my feelings

feeling my feelings

REALLY feeling my feelings is so important to me; like the full intense AF emotion that's carried with me in my body. letting it out & releasing it by crying, shredding paper, screaming, furiously writing stream-of-consciousness in a google doc or my journal, or scrawling on paper with a sharpie helps me to move the heavy & hard emotions through my system.

journaling + expressive writing

journaling + expressive writing

journaling lets me process & express my feelings as part of a reflective practice; a way to decompress & get it all out. i find expressive writing outside of my journaling practice super helpful too! this is why i started writing zines: they were an ideal medium for this. mimi zhu's first book, be not afraid to love: lessons on fear, intimacy, & connection, explores their own healing process through this lens. i loved their book, adore their instagram, & highly recommend their newsletter, write2heal.

connection & community

connection & community

i'm writing about the power of connection & community last because it's the hardest to put into words &/also the most powerful, transformative, messy, beautiful, & healing. which is a lot!!!

i really really really struggle with feeling like i have friends or a community or people who care. i'm scared about my upcoming traumaversary in october. i'm scared to ask for help or reach out or let my friends + family know i'm really not okay. i'm scared because when i'm really not okay, i literally have no idea who i can call or text, regardless of the time of day. i'm not even talking 2am. i'm talking during lunch. during the afternoon. on a saturday night. & it hurts.

because i know what a lifesaver these connections can be. because i believe so deeply in the power of building communities of care. because i've seen what we can do together. because as revolutionary detroit-based community organizer, author, & philosopher grace lee boggs said, “the only way to survive is by taking care of one another.

& yet, i feel more alone + isolated than ever. the physical & emotional trauma of breaking & dislocating my ankle + breaking my leg really messed up my ability to trust that people would be there when it really mattered. i feel disillusioned to the point where i don't believe organizing a community care plan for this october is worth it. i don't want to create any more opportunities to have my heart broken, you know?

xo karina
 
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